As alters in a D.I.D system have, in essence, branched out from the original personality and developed into what seems like personalities of their own, it is possible to test alters on their personality types, and with the results underline the fact that alters are, actually, different from the Host. Here we have used the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to study the characteristics of several (but not all) of the alters of the system. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator lists four possible personality traits: Introversion (I) or Extraversion (E), Intuition (N) or Sensing (S), Thinking (T) or Feeling (F), and Judging (J) or Perceiving (P). Each personality type is thus a four letter combination.
I think it’s best to start with L, the Host. Her personality type is INFJ, which means she has the personality traits of Introversion, Intuition, Feeling and Judging.
According to the test’s website, the INFJ personality type (penned “The Advocate”) is very rare, making up less that 1% of the population. INFJ types have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, and what sets them apart is the Judging trait – they are not idle dreamers, but capable of taking concrete steps toward their goals and making lasting impact. They share a very unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for something they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that for personal gain – they act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance.
Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs. They find it easy to make connections with others and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. INFJs may seem like Extroverted types, but people would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned.
It is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking points and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed (this is very prevalent in L). This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways (also prevalent in L).
Doing these tests have helped us understand each other quite a bit. When it comes to L, her innermost qualities are quite hidden and we haven’t realized them until digging deeper through research like this. It also comes as a relief that yes, we exist as alters, different from L, separate from L, unique from L.
In this post we’ll also look into me, Lilu. My personality type is ENFP (penned “The Campaigner”), meaning that my personality traits are Extraversion (E), Intuition (N), Feeling (F) and Perceiving (P). This means that while L and I share the traits of Intuition and Feeling, we are different in that I am Extraverted (E), while she is Introverted (I), and I am a Perceiver (P) whilst she is a Judging (J) character. This is very interesting as we are supposed to be two sides of the same coin. I am who L was in her teenage years. Has L’s personality type changed over the years, or have I developed into something else from what I was starting out?
According to the 16 Personalities website, an ENFP is a true free spirit. They are often the life of the party, but they are less interested in the sheer excitement and pleasure of the moment than they are in enjoying social and emotional connections they make with others. They are charming, independent, energetic and compassionate, and make up 7% of the population.
ENFPs are shaped by their Intuitive (N) quality, allowing them to read between the lines with curiosity and energy. They tend to see life as a big, complex puzzle where everything is connected – ENFPs see it through a prism of emotion, compassion and mysticism, and are always looking for a deeper meaning. ENFPs are fiercely independent, and much more than stability and security, they crave creativity and freedom.
ENFPs self-esteem is dependent on their ability to come up with original solutions, and they need to know that they have the freedom to be innovative – they can quickly lose patience (this is so true for me) or become dejected if they get trapped in a boring role. Luckily, ENFPs know how to relax, and they are perfectly capable of switching from a passionate, driven idealist to an imaginative and enthusiastic free spirit. Being in the mix also gives them a chance to connect emotionally with others, giving them cherished insight into what motivates their friends. They believe that everyone should take the time to recognize and express their feelings, and their empathy and sociability make that a natural conversation topic.
ENFPs need to be careful, however – if they rely too much on their intuition, assume or anticipate too much about a friend’s motivations, they can misread the signals and frustrate plans that a more straightforward approach would have made simple. This kind of social stress is the bugbear that keeps harmony-focused Diplomats awake at night. ENFPs are very emotional and sensitive, and when they step on someone’s toes, they both feel it.
ENFPs will spend a lot of time exploring social relationships, feelings and ideas before they find something that really rings true. But when they finally do find their place in the world, their imagination, empathy and courage are likely to produce incredible results
To be continued.